ANGER
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How many times have you stayed angry at someone for minutes, hours, days or even years after an event? I expect that we are all guilty of it at some point or other. But my questions today are:
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What purpose does it serve?
And:
Who ends up getting hurt by it?
Well, the first answer to the question is: nothing. And the answer to the second is: YOU!
How ridiculous is that?!
Just think about it for a moment. Someone has aggravated you to the extent that you become upset by it; that, surely, is enough. But, no, you now feel angry at that person for upsetting you, and you blame them for your current emotional turmoil. But are they really to blame? Again, think about it! The only person that can allow you to become upset is you. Allowing yourself to become upset in the first place may seem like a ‘natural reaction’. Well, yes, it is the natural reaction of people who allow themselves to become angered by what other people say or do!
The first thing to remember is that you are the only one who can become upset – no-one can make you do it. Secondly, it is your choice whether, after becoming upset, you continue to continue being upset! Again, think. What is the point in staying angry? Will it change the situation? Will it help you to achieve happiness in your life? No. So why do it then?
Here’s an example of the ridiculousness of harbouring anger:
What would you say if a friend of yours chose to wear a funky new bit of bling, a huge necklace let’s say, that was far too heavy for them and made them continually complain about the extra weight causing them discomfort? Well, presumably, you’d tell them to take it off and relieve their unnecessary suffering – right? In that case, next time you realize that you have allowed yourself to harbour angry feelings about someone or something that has affected you previously, but is not continuing to do so any more, perhaps you should take your own advice! The decision you need to make is whether or not you should allow the heaviness of the problem (which you have actually created or allowed to exist) to weigh you down like a huge necklace. Make the correct and skillful choice and take it off.
buddhism, simple life, memory enhancement, healing, crystalsHow many times have you stayed angry at someone for minutes, hours, days or even years after an event? I expect that we are all guilty of it at some point or other. But my questions today are:
meditation, herbal, massage, yoga, aromatherapy, relaxing, essential oils
What purpose does it serve?
And:
Who ends up getting hurt by it?
Well, the first answer to the question is: nothing. And the answer to the second is: YOU!
How ridiculous is that?!
Just think about it for a moment. Someone has aggravated you to the extent that you become upset by it; that, surely, is enough. But, no, you now feel angry at that person for upsetting you, and you blame them for your current emotional turmoil. But are they really to blame? Again, think about it! The only person that can allow you to become upset is you. Allowing yourself to become upset in the first place may seem like a ‘natural reaction’. Well, yes, it is the natural reaction of people who allow themselves to become angered by what other people say or do!
The first thing to remember is that you are the only one who can become upset – no-one can make you do it. Secondly, it is your choice whether, after becoming upset, you continue to continue being upset! Again, think. What is the point in staying angry? Will it change the situation? Will it help you to achieve happiness in your life? No. So why do it then?
Here’s an example of the ridiculousness of harbouring anger:
What would you say if a friend of yours chose to wear a funky new bit of bling, a huge necklace let’s say, that was far too heavy for them and made them continually complain about the extra weight causing them discomfort? Well, presumably, you’d tell them to take it off and relieve their unnecessary suffering – right? In that case, next time you realize that you have allowed yourself to harbour angry feelings about someone or something that has affected you previously, but is not continuing to do so any more, perhaps you should take your own advice! The decision you need to make is whether or not you should allow the heaviness of the problem (which you have actually created or allowed to exist) to weigh you down like a huge necklace. Make the correct and skillful choice and take it off.
Simple. Problem finished!
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